December is a time when families come together and share joyful moments, but it also sees Alberta’s family courts become overwhelmed with cases involving co-parenting, holiday schedules, and travel plans.
The first holiday following a separation is particularly challenging for families trying to establish co-parenting arrangements, according to Legal Aid Alberta family lawyers. Even long-separated families may face resistance from one parent, despite having a holiday plan in place. However, there are ways to reach an agreement that allows both parties to co-exist amicably.
Always put children first
In separated families, children experience significant upheaval. Parents must prioritize their children’s needs over personal concerns. While parents may worry about dividing time with their children during the holidays, it’s important to remember that children won’t recall the exact dates on a calendar or hours spent with each parent. Instead, they will remember the special moments and activities together.
Be fair and communicate
Fairness is key when crafting a co-parenting plan. Parents should strive for a balanced approach, ensuring that each parent gets quality time with their children. For example, if one parent is granted two weeks of uninterrupted vacation time, the co-parent may also be allotted an equivalent period.
Both parents need to agree on the terms, and sometimes negotiations are required to reach a middle ground. A well-structured parenting plan helps prevent resentment and fosters cooperation.
Open communication is also vital. Regardless of the relationship between parents, allowing the children to have regular contact with the other parent during the holidays provides comfort and stability, which is crucial for their emotional well-being.
Resolve disputes outside of court
Legal Aid Alberta family lawyer Meghan Hanson advises parents to resolve holiday co-parenting issues outside of court whenever possible. Courts are extremely busy during the holiday season, and legal battles do not always lead to the best outcomes. Instead, parents should consider alternatives like mediation or arbitration to resolve disputes when negotiations fall apart.
“When you go to court you are giving a complete stranger decision-making power over your family and your children,” says Meghan Hanson.
Mediation and arbitration can be done with or without lawyers, and some services are available at little to no cost. These alternatives allow parents to shape outcomes collaboratively rather than leaving decisions to a judge.
To make the holiday season harmonious and joyful, it’s essential to prioritize children’s needs and set aside conflicts. With open communication, a fair approach, and a willingness to cooperate, the holidays can be a rewarding experience for everyone in the family.
Meghan adds, “If you can try to put your own self-interest on the back burner and think about your kids, that is going to give you the best holiday!”
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